Change Your Mindset…Change Your Life!

noregrets-movingonWhat if the only directional gear your car was equipped with was forward? You will still have control over the rate of acceleration, yet reverse will not be an option for the driver and neutral has a time limit. This would certainly impact your route planning and preparation. Would it slow down your process, or prompt faster decision making? Would it limit your choices or expand your vision? How would you adjust?

“Life is a one-way street. No matter how many detours you take, none of them leads back. Once you know and accept that, life becomes much simpler.” Isabel  Moore

Changing your mindset is not like changing your shirt. Preliminary to making a change is choosing a goal, creating a plan and committing to a course of action. Having good intentions does not get the job done and it is far too easy to lapse back into old actions that supported old behaviors. Once you set the intention, you must schedule the actions and honor the intention to incorporate change into your revised routine. Your calendar, like your road map is the tool you will use for incorporating new activities/destinations into your master plan.

Picture yourself standing at the base of a mountain, looking up and wondering how you are supposed to make it to the summit. Climbing the mountain may seem insurmountable, yet once you commit to the challenge, you commit to a shift in thinking and the knowledge that in order to accomplish this goal, you must make a plan. You hire a crew, make necessary purchases and proceed forward. What may have been an overwhelming goal, can now be broken down into doable, incremental tasks. Designing a strategy is the best defense against the potential of “analysis paralysis” and those accompanying fears.

If you are still having trouble breaking down a big goal into smaller tasks, imagine you’ve already achieved your goal. For example, visualize yourself taking photos from the top of the mountain, surrounded by your climbing team. How did you get there?

By imagining that you have already accomplished your goal, the path to success becomes crystal clear. Rather than seeing obstacles, you see results and what you previously imagined to be powerful roadblocks may even disappear.
©MWeisner2017

10 Things You Can Do Better Today

 

how-to-time-management-300x225I am a list maker. It helps me to synthesize my thoughts and organize my activities rather than to operate free-form, without a plan. It is too easy to be in action for the sake of feeling like there is accomplishment. Yes, at the end of the day it is better to have cleaned closets, gone to the gym and emerged from the darkness with the purchase of proper wattage light-bulbs. However, task driven busyness is not a substitute for long term measurable results, improved relationships and clarity. Thinking in broader terms may be useful in creating your own list. Below is a sample of a place to start and #10 is a reward in and of itself.

1. Increase your response time to requests.
2. Improve the brevity and simplicity of your electronic correspondence.
3. Connect with 5 new people and 7 existing colleagues or friends each day.
4. Inspect your business process cycle from start to finish for improvement.
5. Rethink your approach to helping others succeed.
6. Increase the number of times you connect others to build new relationships.
7. Resolve 3 pieces of unfinished business, no matter how painful.
8. Live closer to your goals and your main points of focus, and less by reaction.
9. Take time to thank the people who make your life possible.
10. Rest and unplug!

Your list may be quite different and it must be one that makes sense for you. Who wouldn’t want to be better at understanding the value of designing a process, an internal plan that is uniquely yours? How effective will you be when the questions you ask, the calls you make and the level of engagement you choose are consistently in alignment with your list!

• What are your most fundamental guiding principles?
• Too big? Begin with 3 or even 1 and add as you choose
• Notice the shift in your focus – what’s different?
• Notice the response of others to you – what’s different?

©MWeisner2015

You’ve Got the Dream But Not the Drive

indecision• Is your life in transition?
• Is your job or career in transition?
• Stuck and need to jumpstart your life?

The most direct approach is to start somewhere; almost anywhere. So often we get caught up in what it will take to get to the end, that we are paralyzed before we even begin.

“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.” ~ Guillaime Apollinaire

Are you looking for the push, the shove, or the kick in the pants for permission to pursue your dream? Or are you too fearful of even playing with the notion to have a dream? It has been said that the only difference between a dream and a hallucination is the number of people who can see it. What are you seeing or disbelieving?

“Hold a picture of yourself long and steadily enough in your mind’s eye, and you will be drawn toward it.” ~ Napolean Hill

The main character in Robert Pendleton’s book states that she is sick of following her dreams and is just going to ask them where they are going and hook up with them later. Are these the words of someone who is very droll or merely an articulation of her ongoing frustrations? What if she replaced her image from trudging up the mountain to having arrived at the summit? That’s a dramatically different view. What does it feel like now? If you can see yourself achieving the goal, you can then do a “look back” and visualize the preparation necessary to get there. Notice the shift in energy. When you are focused on the positive result or conclusion, you have also summoned up a belief that you can accomplish something that was once a dream.

When you are in transition, you are also in the unenviable position of beginning with a clean slate.
• Clarify your vision
• Identify your allies
• Ask for help!

© MWeisner2015

Who Do You Want to Be?

Importance-of-Networking-and-Events-300x199Are you sleepwalking through your life, waiting for the next thing to happen only to react when “it” inevitably does? You see, there really are two ways to face the future; with apprehension or with anticipation. Let’s throw in avoidance and we are looking right into the yawning face of fear, fear that we may lose control, fail and more. It’s an old and familiar story. The pursuit of control actually, the illusion of having control, is the consummate time waster. We create multiple ways to manage what is yet to happen and spend so much time living in the future that we may miss the present entirely and that is the place we live.

Who do you want to be? Who are you choosing to be?

It has also been said that there are three kinds of people in the world.
1. Those who wait for things to happen
2. Those who make things happen
3. Those who wonder what happened

Who do you want to be? Who are you choosing to be?

The analysis paralysis is a common default behavior. Consider the following:
Five frogs are sitting on a log. Four decide to jump off. How many are left?
Answer: Five! It’s the difference between deciding and doing.

Who do you want to be? Who are you choosing to be now!

Our thoughts determine our feelings and hence, our actions. When we remain in the present and not the future land of worry we can refocus our energies to better serve us:
• Each day make a list of 5 things you are grateful for
• Speak them aloud
• Carry the list with you as a reminder!

©2014 Maureen Weisner